President Theodore Roosevelt was a man who pressed on in
spite of his critics. He was as controversial for his times as Lincoln was
earlier in the nineteenth century and as our President is today. He was a
soldier, an adventurer, a policeman, and much more. He was brash, bold, and
biased.
If he were active in politics today, I would oppose many of
the policies he fought for. And if I voiced my criticisms of him, he wouldn’t
care.
How do you deal with the critics in your life?
Not only those who review your writing. Think back over a
lifetime, and the various critics you’ve come across. Individuals in your
church. In your extended family. Your boss. Fellow employees. Your professors in
college. That know-it-all in fifth grade. Your siblings. Your parents.
Yourself.
We each have different coping mechanisms in response to
criticism. Some of us can cheer ourselves on if we’re personally discouraged,
but we’ll fold at the first hint of dissent from someone whose opinion matters
to us. Others of us can confront our outside critics, but will toss any flawed
efforts into a figurative trash can if we can’t meet our own high standards.
And then there are those who cave at any negative comment by anyone.
Regardless of the category that fits you best, if you quit
an endeavor because someone, yourself included, pointed out the imperfections,
you lose.
I love the following quote from Roosevelt. Generations who
have followed him title this passage, “The Man in the Arena.:
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done them better.
"The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again because there is no effort without error and shortcoming;
"But who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself in a worthy cause,
"Who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat."
I don’t want to be one of those “cold and timid souls.” The
fact that you’re a member of ACFW tells me you share the same feelings.
We write because God put it on our hearts to do so. And if
God put it on our hearts, then it's worth the struggle of sharing that
message, of learning this craft of writing, of practicing to get better, and of
opening ourselves to the vulnerable position of the public’s opinion—agents,
editors, critique partners, reviewers—with heads held high.
Maybe you have a bestseller. Maybe no publisher ever wanted
your work. But you haven’t quit. Win or lose, you stand in the arena.
Linda Sammaritan writes realistic fiction, mostly for kids
ages ten to fourteen. She is currently working on a middle grade trilogy, World Without Sound, based on her own
experiences growing up with a deaf sister.
Linda had always figured she’d teach middle-graders until
school authorities presented her with a retirement wheelchair at the overripe
age of eighty-five. However, God changed those plans when He gave her a growing
passion for writing fiction. In May of 2016, she blew goodbye kisses to her
students and dedicated her work hours to learning the craft.
A wife, mother of three, grandmother to seven, Linda regales
the youngest grandchildren with “Nona Stories,” tales of her childhood. Maybe
one day those stories will be in picture books!
Where Linda can be found on the web: