I never knew I could grow fangs
until I became a mother.
When you create something
special, you know it. And you will protect it with your life’s blood.
Some aspects of writing mirror
parenthood; certainly, the miracle of idea conception, the growth of the story
within, and the pain and joy of giving birth to the book—not to mention lack of
sleep, sanity, and money—resemble the process that nurtures offspring.
You’ve carried your book baby for
months, years, maybe even decades. And when someone critiques your child, fangs
emerge.
I know. I, too, would much rather
tell the truth in love than hear it—especially if the person who evaluates my
work isn’t perfect, either.
Suppose, for example, Ms.
Bluntforce informs you that you’re feeding your little romance too many sugary
adjectives or fattening your book with boring narratives. Or perhaps she says
your mystery plot is so skinny, it won’t survive a second reading. If you’re
like me, you want to show your teeth.
But have you heard similar comments from
others about your work? Perhaps you should check out trustworthy websites,
webinars, books, or other educational materials on the subject. Has her
criticism, though less than tactful, benefitted other writers? If so, then
consider taking her advice.
Occasionally, though, you may encounter
a critic who vivisects others’ work for fun. For the sake of your story, show
those protective fangs. Give him a toothy snarl, grab your baby, and run.
How do we tell the difference? It
certainly involves an ongoing process. As I’ve gained experience working with various
critique groups and editors, my instinct for evaluating input has sharpened.
Ironically, I don’t need fangs nearly as much as I thought. Perhaps God gave
other writers and editors insights, too!—insights I should respect as I would
want mine valued.
Occasionally, though, I stand my
ground with a growl to protect my baby.
How about you? How do you react
to critiques of your work? Have you ever found it necessary to show your fangs?
Over the years, I've learned to smile and say "thank you" no matter what the comment. After I calm down inside, I decide whether to take or leave the advice given. And I probably take more of it than I leave.
ReplyDeleteI hear you, Kathryn. Strange how the longer I travel this writing journey, the smarter other writers/editors/critique partners become!
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